Kathy M came to my rescue (Thanks again Kathy!), and taught me all about the difficulties in selecting neutrals and about lighting and color bases. I spent a good bit of time last week trying out new shades, not getting happy, and finally realizing what I wanted was not so much dark gray, but really not-quite-black.
The fiber optics guys got me all set up with by big screen tv - ok not that big, but we are fertilizing and watering and hoping it will grow.
I also finally settled on flooring - that has been an interesting experience. I'll save the reveal on what I decided on until it's in. Handsome floor man says he may be able to get me installed later this week, but more likely first of next week. That's fine - I want to paint the drop ceiling supports and get the new ceiling tiles in before the floor comes in.